Category Archives: Porn Addiction

Reactions to My Posts on Addiction – – In Worlds of “Could” and “May” and “Might”

I must say, the reaction to my posts(s) on porn addiction (My Old Friend and Reactions & Resources) takes me back a bit ~ a reaction that includes the request that my wife and I resign our positions at the non-profit organization my wife helped co-found, Ds Connections Nw.  It seems, and not for the first time, I’ve breached a sensitive subject matter wherein worry has reared its ugly head about how other people could, or may, or might react: Yet not how anyone actually has, or had, up to the point of our resignation, to the best of my knowledge.

I am curious though, within these posts, what anyone of the general public found to be offensive?

One might say, “Oh, I personally didn’t find it offensive.  Still, the subject matter is too overly sensitive, especially given the positions that you and your wife carry in a non-profit organization; most especially one that deals so directly with children.”

Or possibly it’s the fact that it may be seen as such.

Okay, I get that. (Truly, I do.)

But I must say; unless someone specifically comes forward with this complaint, with this offense, we’re merely jumping at our own shadows, eventually only to be frozen in place, unable to accomplish anything for fear of who we might offend.  And if the offense has not in actuality taken place, the offensiveness must not lie within the perception of the public, it lies within our own perceptions.

So again I ask: what, in my recent post, was found to be offensive? Continue reading Reactions to My Posts on Addiction – – In Worlds of “Could” and “May” and “Might”

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Porn Addiction . . . From Reactions to Resources

Well, Umm . . . Wow! The varying reactions I’ve had to my post “Porn Addiction . . . My Old Friend” were rather unexpected!
What started out as a little post intending to give some insight into overcoming a few of my foibles and imperfections has really resonated with some folks.  And pissed others off.  Cool!
Along the way, I was asked what advice, insight or information I could give to someone currently in the thick of their struggle with porn addiction.  To answer that, I’ve decided to dedicate a little sub-section of Spiritual Drift to Porn Addiction, along with some resources and personal testimonials. You’ll see it at the top of the site on the right-hand side of the categories.
I’ve added a Welcome page as well with a little more of my own insight, understanding and two-bit advice ~~Appropriately enough entitled, “Welcome (News flash . . . you’re not alone! Duh!)”
Please take a look, and if you’ve got some additional ideas for information, resources or, if you know of someone else who has overcome this all too common stumbling block in their lives and would be willing to (or maybe already did) tell their story, please let me know so I can add this valuable insight.
Thank you for your understanding, your willingness to listen (and maybe learn), and if you struggle with this yourself, your candor and honesty.
God Bless and have a great day!
Links:
Porn Addiction
   Welcome (News flash . . . you’re not alone! Duh!)
   Resources
   Testimonials (and other Writings)

Porn Addiction . . . My Old Friend

Have you ever had one of those friendships where over time you just sort of slowly drift away from each other?  You’re not sure if you’ve outgrown the relationship, or your interests have changed, or like so many other things we once held significant, time has just worn it away.

Oh, you still see each other from time to time, exchanging pleasantries and engaging in an oddly uncomfortable and blessedly brief conversation.  But it’s not the same.  The effort just isn’t there to make it work anymore; to make it worthwhile.  Eventually you just give up; giving a slight nod and pleasant smile as you pass each other on the sidewalk.

That’s kind of the way I feel about my addiction to porn now.  Oh, he’s still around.  We still run across each other from time to time.  But he’s merely a shadow of his former self.  Really, he’s not even making much of an effort to maintain my attention anymore.  He just seems to go through the motions like, “Alright, I’ve still got to be here for a little while longer—gotta collect the paycheck, you know—so . . . you know . . . hi.”

It’s sad really. He was so formidable at one time; overwhelming really, in his charismatic allure. Continue reading Porn Addiction . . . My Old Friend