“Pseudo-biblical language that doesn’t even speak to reality only shortcuts a huge issue. You can tell me to “rebuke it in Jesus’ name” all day long, but I need some freaking help.” ~ J.S. Park
I like this excerpt/quote from J.S. And I see two very distinct sides on this:
When you’re hurting or troubled and need help, ASK!
If you don’t like the help being offered, it’s probably not the helper’s fault. They may be doing the best they can. They may be doing ALL they can. After all, when the rubber hits the road in our faith journey, we’re not here to fix each other: Jesus does that part. Give encouragement, speak truth, and point to Him, but don’t try to solve or fix each other. Remember, we all have a boatload of issues of our very own—some dinghies, some ocean liners. The fact that we’re willing to sweep aside our own dirt and wade in to yours should speak volumes about our commitment; both to you and to our friendship. If you choose not to see that, there’s not a lot else we can do to sway you otherwise, let alone chip away at what might actually be bugging you.
And don’t get all uppity and indignant if someone keeps pointing you back to scripture if they say, “Well, what does the Bible say about this?” They’re just doing their job, as friends and fellow Christians.
Proverbs 12: 13 The wicked are trapped by their own words
but the godly escape such trouble.
14 Wise words bring many benefits,
and hard work brings rewards.
15 Fools think their own way is right,
but the wise listen to others. (NLT)
The second side is this . . .
When someone asks, HELP!
Don’t just offer a flippant phrase, get your hands dirty . . . and don’t rely on or single-mindedly seek out church leadership involvement. WE are the church.
Acts 4: 32 All the believers were united in heart and mind. And they felt that what they owned was not their own, so they shared everything they had. 33 The apostles testified powerfully to the resurrection of the Lord Jesus, and God’s great blessing was upon them all.
Tell a trusted friend or home group member–and not through such societal train wrecks as Facebook or Twitter. How about a phone call or personal visit? Remember those? And again, I’m not saying anything about fixing your problems. There’s a distinct difference between ‘fixing’ and ‘helping’. I don’t want, or need, to try and solve life’s difficulties, but I’m more than willing to walk alongside and share the burden. And when someone is willing to walk alongside you for a while, let them.
And, if you do happen to bump into one of your local pastors or eldership, don’t get disillusioned when these church leaders don’t magically ‘get it’ that you’ve got issues. Feel free to tell them, but keep in mind; they’ve got dozens or even hundreds of other congregation members with issues just as important, just as desperate, and just as urgent as yours–at least to the dozens or hundreds of other congregation members. Plus the inescapable fact that above all else these church leaders are inescapably human too; with their own overstuffed backpack of personal “stuff”. They’re probably looking for someone just as urgently as you are.
Galatians 6: 1Dear brothers and sisters, if another believer is overcome by some sin, you who are godly should gently and humbly help that person back onto the right path. And be careful not to fall into the same temptation yourself. 2 Share each other’s burdens, and in this way obey the law of Christ. 3 If you think you are too important to help someone, you are only fooling yourself. You are not that important. (NLT)
Kinks: 1It’s a mixed up, jumbled up, shook up world, except for Lola. 2La la la la Loooollaaa! (Lola vs. Powerman and the Moneygoround Part one)
See, you’re in a better mood already!