“Preach the Gospel at all times. When necessary, use words.”
~ attributed to St. Francis of Assisi
This is one of my favorite quotes, and a lofty goal at best. The gist, as I interpret it, is that we speak constantly, regardless of whether or not we open our mouths. Those that profess to be Christians are held to, and often fail to uphold, the higher standard of He whose name we bear.
But the essence of this sentiment applies just as easily to any interaction of life.
Just the other day, as we were wrapping up the day at the book store, one of our employees asked when we might be finished so she could call her boyfriend to come pick her up. I told her we were fairly close and just give him a call now. She hesitated.
“What’s up?” I asked.
“Well,” she started, “I want to make sure we’re close.”
I shrugged, thinking it was no big deal. “Probably close enough, why?”
“He doesn’t like to wait.” She answered, laughing it off.
Jaws dropped all around the room. (Well, the three of us that were there.)
Really, I thought; some boyfriend. Actually, I think I said something more like, “Go ahead and call him now. Tell him if you’re not worth waiting for, he’s not worth having.”
To me, what he was actually saying was, “Since I have something you want (a ride in this case), I am more worth your time to wait then you are of mine.”
Or, “Since you depend on me, your time is not as valuable as mine.”
Or simply, “You’re not as important as me.”
I mean, really! Am I overstating myself here?
In any case, he just gave her the sum total of his value of their relationship. Not through what he said. But his actions spoke volumes.
So . . . .
What are you saying to people today?
Especially to those you “love” and “value”?
Are your actions supporting your words? Your relationship?
By the way, I’d like to report that our employee had a nice “talk” to her boyfriend and things are all straightened out now. I admire her courage, self-worth and self-confidence.
She’s worth it . . . and so are you.
And so are they . . .