Incidental Anger Management 2.0

I had a blog all ready to go entitled “Incidental Anger Management”. It was all about those people in the world that just seemed to go through their day . . . mad. Their P.O.’d pistol is all cocked, locked and ready to unload on the next person that crosses them with even the most insignificant “wrongness”. And, as many of you know, I work within the wild jungles of retail customer service, so this type of subject is near and dear to my heart. I was all up in their grill with my self-righteous piety and “respect” this and “patience” that. I felt gooooood writing it. I felt all high and mighty in my condemnation. Then I looked at it after I’d finished and thought . . .

That’s not right.

So I worked on it . . .

And worked on it . . .

And worked on it . . .

Then, after I’d worked on it some more, I stepped back, looked at it again, and I thought . . .

That’s still not right.

Then Sunday came and I’m sitting in church listening to Pastor Mike talk about “community” and it hits me . . .

He’s talking to me! He’s talking about community. My community. Not just a community of believers, but the real, honest-to-goodness community around us: our friends; our neighbors; the people we work with; the people we work for. And in doing so, he’s rewriting my blog.

He says, “In community, we learn how to love.”

Honestly, there are days when I go to work and I genuinely don’t feel like loving my customers: Especially the ones that come in already mad and looking for an outlet—not a resolution, an outlet.

And you know who you are.

He says, “In community, we learn that love is a choice, not a feeling.”

So, in spite of (or sometimes because of) circumstances, I have to choose to love you. Yet, there’s also another choice I’ve made; the choice to follow Christ. So that, in choosing to love you, I can enter that choice neither alone nor unarmed:

1 Corinthians 16: 13 Be on guard. Stand firm in the faith. Be courageous. Be strong. 14 And do everything with love. 

1 John 3: 18 Dear children, let’s not merely say that we love each other; let us show the truth by our actions. 19 Our actions will show that we belong to the truth, so we will be confident when we stand before God. 20 Even if we feel guilty, God is greater than our feelings, and he knows everything.

To me, there’s something calming within those words. I don’t know of too many people who have spent a majority of their employed lives working within the public sector—whether in retail, teaching, public safety, support services, etc.—who don’t have a definite opinion on . . . humanity; people; “them“.  But love is a choice, not a feeling. You don’t have to be a Christ follower to understand that. Still, it’s something we have to learn how to do, and it’s something we have to continually practice. There are times that we’ll feel we’ll never master it. That’s not the point. The point is to choose . . .

And choose again . . .

And again . . .

That choice may not matter to them . . .

It’s not for them anyway . . .

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2 thoughts on “Incidental Anger Management 2.0”

  1. I might be misdirected on this , and certainly responding off the cuff and not with thoughtful insight… but twice–probably more– it seems that you have indicated unpublished posts. What would happen– I wonder, if you posted both? Both the insightful,productive and inspired honest postings AND the THE OTHER. That you erase, that you write and know better and hit delete with a satisfaction and relief to know that you have control (thank God) over this. Not sure I could do it, but it is interesting and possibly spiritually strengthening to wonder about. Again, not suggesting, but wondering about the ability, the strength of human ability to Jeckle your thoughts and then Hyde them. ( A little literary poke…) I dont think I could do it. Steady on with all that.

    1. Funny, I’ve actually thought about that. I don’t actually erase very many of my unused posts because there may be little useful tidbits that I’ll pull out every now and then. One unused post may be hacked up into three or four useful ones by the time I’m done. That said, maybe keeping the original posts that I coyingly refer to and then, when I’m wildly successful of course, publish the “before” versions as an interesting aside–or include them in the book deal, ha ha! But, until then, they shall remain locked away in my discreet “unpublished” folder.

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